4.5% of the men in the United States is an incredibly high number – that translates into over six million men.
If you added up every US citizen who was officially unemployed or looking for work in 2001, that would be less than the total number of rapists.
If you added up every US citizen who is Jewish, that would still be less than the total number of rapists.
If you added up every teenage boy who had any sort of job – an afterschool job, a summer job, working full-time after dropping out, including all of those – you’d still have over a million fewer people then the total number of rapists.
There are twice as many rapists in the USA as there are single mothers.
For every drunk driver who is in a fatal accident this year, there are over 500 rapists.
If you take every doctor and nurse in the United States; and you added them to every librarian, every cashier, every cop, every postal clerk, and every bank teller in the whole country; you still wouldn’t have as many people as the number of rapists in the United States.
(Think of that a second – think of how often, in your daily life, you’ve seen cops and cashiers and all those other folks. Odds are, you’ve run into rapists more often than that).
To paraphrase Tim Wise: In short, “only” 4.5% of the male population is a lot of people, so that even by the most optimistic assessment of how many men are rapists, there are literally millions out there who not only would but have raped a woman. When combined with those who are less vicious – those who haven’t raped, but would be willing to in the right circumstances, and those who would make excuses for why other men rape, it becomes clear just how real a widespread a problem rape and rape-supportive attitudes are among men today.
This is something that’s always scared me and men - mostly the non-rapist kind - don’t understand. I can’t tell who is and who isn’t a rapist, but I know there’s a lot of them out there, so I like to know guys really well before I agree to be alone with them. No, I don’t assume all men are the same, but I have to be more protective of myself than I am of the feelings of a guy who’s hitting on me.
How Doctor Who Changed My Life
It’s a cliche to say some form of media changed your life, and in all my life I’ve never said that about anything but Doctor Who because, well, it’s the only thing that actually did.
1. I got in shape.
I realized I could never be The Doctor’s companion because I couldn’t keep up with him in the state I was in, so I started running and never stopped.
2. I learned to keep my mind open.
The Doctor taught me to believe that the universe is vast and complicated and ridiculous and that anything is possible. I learned to be willing to learn from everyone and every situation. Everyone has something to teach you if you’re willing to learn.
3. I learned to have fun.
I have really bad anxiety and I find it difficult to relax. The Doctor taught me I could have fun and adventures and still get stuff done. If you just give life everything you’ve got and pack as much life as you can into every single moment, you’ll never get old, even if you get to be 1000 years old.
4. I got over my depression.
I’ve been seriously depressed for most of my life. I would go through better and worse cycles of it but it was a constant in my life for a long, long time. When I started watching Doctor Who, I decided that if a 900+ year-old lonely alien could lose everyone and everything he’s ever loved and still carry on and have fun and find new people to love and lose over and over, then why couldn’t I? That gave me a reason to fight depression. And then he taught me that bad things happen and it’s good to let it get to me (that’s called being alive) but the bad things don’t negate the good things. That taught me how to fight depression. Of course, depression is complicated and it takes more than that to get out of, but I sincerely believe that Doctor Who was the biggest part of my recovery.
5. I decided to be a better person.
I was always a pretty good kid, but I was worried people would stop liking me if I disagreed with them or associated with people they didn’t like so sometimes I’d avoid hanging out with unpopular kids or join in making fun of them behind their backs to fit in. The Doctor taught me to do good, be good, and be willing to stand up and fight for what’s right even when everyone else just runs away. If people judge me for that, I wouldn’t want to hang out with them anyway.
6. I’ve begun to come to terms with my mortality.
I’m terrified of death. The Doctor taught me that one day my life will be over but the universe goes on forever. He taught me I’m one speck of stardust in a cosmic ocean, but that doesn’t make me unimportant. It doesn’t matter if I cease to exist or not, the point is what I do now.
(that one deserved 3)
7. I gained confidence and lost some of my paralyzing inhibition.
The Doctor taught me that being silly and crazy and ridiculous is cool. One of my biggest fears was feeling foolish, and while that fear is still a part of me, it’s 1/1000th the size of what it was. I’ve learned to stop apologizing for who I am and just enjoy doing what I like to do.
"I have lived a long life, and I have seen a few things.
"I walked away from the Last Great Time War. I marked the passing of the Time Lords.
"I saw the birth of the universe. And I watched as time ran out.
"Moment by moment. Until nothing remained- no time. No space. Just me.
"I walked in universes where the laws of physics were devised by the mind of a madman.
"I have watched universes freeze and creations burn.
"I have seen things you wouldn’t believe.
"I have lost things you will never understand.
"And I know things.
“Secrets that must never be told. Knowledge that must never be spoken.”